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Comment on Why I can’t write—part 3 by DarcsFalcon

DarcsFalcon — Tue, 22 May 2012 04:28:23 +0000

First thing to do is wrestle the fear down to something that makes it seem not so huge anymore. Bad mouth it, bitch-slap it, kick its ass.

My kids used to be terrified of storms, always afraid they’d turn into tornadoes and kill us all. Finally one stormy day I started yelling at the storm, daring it, threatening it, and then I flipped it off. My kids started cracking up, and “siding” with me. Suddenly the storm wasn’t so scary anymore, not with mommy daring it to come get her and it couldn’t even open the window.

For the most part, it seems to have worked. Once in a great while now the little princess gets a bit scared but nothing like they used to.

Decide to be more powerful than the fear and you will be. :)

Most of the time. ;)

Comment on Why I can’t write—part 3 by Allison Dickson

Allison Dickson — Fri, 18 May 2012 23:17:09 +0000

I just want to let you know I’ve appreciated this whole series of yours I can rate. Very much. I think it’s a very common thing with women, unfortunately. But I do hope you can use all of this introspection to your advantage. I’m rooting for you!

Comment on Why I can’t write—part 3 by marta

marta — Fri, 18 May 2012 03:11:17 +0000

Saw this today and thought of this series of posts. Just things to ponder.

http://www.danoah.com/2012/05/15-things-you-should-give-up-to-be-happy.html

Comment on Why I can’t write—part 2 by DarcsFalcon

DarcsFalcon — Thu, 17 May 2012 07:20:15 +0000

“If it’s just for me, it doesn’t matter. ”

That goes to value, the value you place on yourself and your needs and your time.

Sure, as moms it become part of our identity to meet everyone else’s needs, that’s what we do! It’s hard to remember sometimes that it’s also part of our job to teach our kids not to need us (to take care of them) anymore, to take care of some things for themselves.

We forget that it’s okay to take care of our needs to, because we’ll still need ourselves after the kids are grown and gone.

Also, fear of success or happiness? Well sure, fear of both. Doesn’t have to be one or the other. We can get so used to failing or not being happy that any kind of change in those circumstances is strange and scary and something we’ll try to avoid.

People with disabilities are sometimes afraid of being “cured” too. Like, a deaf person might not want to get hearing aids or surgery because being deaf is familiar and safe.

Looking forward to see where you end up with this. :)

Comment on Why I can’t write—part 3 by DarcKnyt

DarcKnyt — Wed, 16 May 2012 23:51:57 +0000

You know, I think I understand all of that, on a lot of different levels. I get it. I know that’s meaningless and useless, but…I get it.

Comment on Why I can’t write—part 3 by Sarah

Sarah — Wed, 16 May 2012 22:35:20 +0000

even if this post isn’t here tomorrow, you did the most important part– you wrote through your fear.

Comment on Why I can’t write—part 1 by marta

marta — Wed, 16 May 2012 13:06:29 +0000

Fear of success is fear of lots of things. How would success affect one’s family? What about friends? How would friends feel if you are successful in your goals and they’re not? And we all see the vitriol thrown at successful people. JK Rowling is loved and hated after all. And people will expect things of you. You will have to keep working hard to be remain successful and not a one-hit-wonder. Success brings a lot of crap along with it.

Sometimes I think I identify so much as an outsider, a struggler, a failure-at-my-dream…who would I be if I became “a success?” I read something about how David Sedaris became successful by writing about what a loser, misfit he was. So now that he is a hit…how can he still write those stories…and those stories made him famous.

Anyway, keep writing. Please.

Comment on Why I can’t write—part 2 by Sarah

Sarah — Tue, 15 May 2012 15:51:12 +0000

In my experience, it’s the fear of change, and what that change will demand of us. What would it mean to live an independent, productive life? When one person, especially in a family system, decides to try and achieve that, then it means everything else shifts, in one way or another. Scary stuff for everyone involved. But also, how wonderful.

Comment on Why I can’t write—part 1 by DarcsFalcon

DarcsFalcon — Tue, 15 May 2012 06:23:56 +0000

It’s interesting you should post on this — Darc goes through many of these same internal arguments also. I suspect it’s fairly common for the creative types. Creating — whether writing or painting or whatever the passion is — is so joyful that it feels like it must be wrong somehow.

At the same time, there are pressures to be “perfect,” whether those pressures come from internal or external sources, they still exist and must be dealt with.

It came be a little paralyzing to try to produce something under all that!

Looking forward to the other parts you’ve got coming up. :)

I like the new theme, btw. :)

Comment on Why I can’t write—part 2 by DarcKnyt

DarcKnyt — Mon, 14 May 2012 15:39:59 +0000

Reaching the finish line is a new thing for me too, in, say, the last five years. I'd finished a whopping two books between 2004 and 2007. I've finished two more and started at least a couple of others in the ensuing five years, though. So it looks all weird and wrong for me to say that. There's been a lot of growth in there though, so I think the stuff I've started is better than it was, I don't get discouraged or lost in it so easily now, and I think knowing how to write, and "what to write where," helps out a great deal for me. But seeing the stall-out from someone else helps me understand I'm not so unique and weird as I thought. Looking forward to the next part.